This is an unimpressive book, really. So small, and so thin
that you cannot imagine when you get it in your hands for the first time that
it could be a live changing book. This is why you should know about it.
I read this book in 1990. I was then building the Training Curriculum for Sun Microsystems European Sales Force. One of the goals was to get rid of the traditional “push boxes and bargain on price” approach, and embrace a more consultative and strategic selling one, based on added value and solution. Negotiation was at the core of it. With the objective to complete an evaluation, I attended a negotiation training based on the “win/win” approach described in this book written Roger Fisher, William L. Ury.
Until then, I had been struggling finding a negotiation model that worked. Of course I had got all the possible recipes from “Start high” to “Know your goals and objectives” to “Get ready to break the deal”, but no comprehensive model that fully embraces the negotiation process.
This training and the book it was based on were a revelation. Like it is often the case, this was both brilliant and simple.
The 5 simple principles are the following (simple to understand, not always to execute);
1- Separate the People from the Problem.This is indeed one of the most polluting mistake people do when negotiating. The human side and the emotions get mixed up with the real problem. The factual issue that has to be solved is distorted behind bad feelings or old stories that prevent stakeholders to properly address it. So forget about the people you are dealing with and focus only of the facts. What is the real problem you want to solve?
2- Focus on Interests, not PositionsThe second biggest mistake is starting the negotiation with a position
and to defend it regardless of anything else. There is a lot of pride involved in
not moving or moving as little as possible. When this strategy is applied on
both sides, you have endless and useless discussions… and sometimes war. The new angle offered in “Getting to Yes” is
to discover both parties’ interests, asking the magic question, “Why?”
To take a trivial example, people might say “We want 50% discount”. This
is a position, a strong statement. If you ask the question “Why?” you could get
something like this “We don’t have free cash flow at the moment” or “My team is
judged on the average discount vs. public pricing we can get.” Those are the
real interests you should focus on, not the 50% discount, and this is the only way to find the best
solution for both parties.
When you have a clear understanding of your own interests and the other party’s interests, you have to be creative to find out how they overlap and to create original options to satisfy everybody.
To come back to the previous example, the cash flow issue may require a financing solution that protects your own margin at the same time. The second example requires more creativity such as adding totally free (100% discount) items to protect the margin on the ones on which you don’t have this flexibility, while giving the highest frontal discount as possible.
4- Use Objectives CriteriaSometimes it is very challenging for both parties to evaluate the proposed common solution. A lack of data or knowledge could transform a great solution to an apparently bad one. In this case, even if you have the appropriate expertise on your side, it is better to refer to recognized experts who will have the credibility, and will establish the factual benefits of the solution.
5- Develop your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement.Whatever you do, you should be ready for the worst scenario. A win/win game based on addressing the real problem, focusing on mutual interests and using objective criteria could fail anyway if you are the only player. Sometimes people just don’t want to play win/win. They have a position, they keep it for unknown reasons and they don’t want to use any kind of objectivity. In this very case, you should develop your best alternative to a negotiated agreement (BATNA). Is it finding another party to negotiate with? Calling to a higher level? Dropping your price to a pre-defined limit? Whatever it is, you should think about it before the negotiation; that will make you stronger.
This 5-steps approach is extremely effective and I used it in a lot of circumstances, negotiating $M contracts with large companies, resolving internal conflicts within my team or negotiating annual budget with other departments. That simply works very well and creates such a positive momentum, it could be addictive!
You have to know that this method was used to negotiate the Camp David Accords signed by Egyptian President Anwar El Sadat and Israeli Prime Minister Menachem Begin on September 17, 1978, following twelve days of secret negotiations at Camp David. Easy to understand but sometimes very difficult to implement…Which method have you been using? Which one would you recommend?






